Where did it all go wrong?

What ever happened to fidelity? What happened to marriage vows actually meaning something? Since when did children become so un-important that it's become acceptable to drag them through relationship after relationship? Where did 'for better or for worse' go? Why, why, why, why, why has it become 'ok' to meet someone have kids then leave them for someone else (repeat cycle until your sexual appetite is no more)?

I ask all these questions as recently I have had two people come to me with situations I would rather not know about. Both involve extra curricular activities of a kind that you wouldn't expect from people in their situation (married, children etc).

Situation a) - Person A has been playing away from home for a period of time without their partners knowledge. Sadly Person As games partner seems to have told the whole world what's been going on. Person A now has to either tell their partner or risk them finding out from someone else. Either way the relationship is most likely going to be over even though Person A doesn't want that. You see, it wasn't just a drunken snog, it was calculated - which means they deliberately set out to do it. That makes me sad.

Situation b) - Person A is leaving Person B for Person C. Long standing marriage, mortgage, 2 kids blaa blaa blaa, the details of the situation I shan't post.

When did society make this acceptable? Was it when Blair promoted the career choice of 'Single Motherdom'. Thou shall be housed, thou shall receive money... (note I fully understand not all single mothers rely on Blair each month, but a growing number take it as their absolute right to be supported if they choose to have a child). Britain has the highest single mother rate in the developed world I believe. And that is because as a society we have made it acceptable for women to leave their husbands or vice versa, and for children to be born out of wedlock etc, although these days the vows of marriage seem not to be taken seriously.

I have children. I know that sometimes its better to be seperated and happy than together and unhappy. But I also know it is better to sort out the unhappiness and stay together and be happy.

My point of this rant - I have no idea (and I certainly have not covered every opinion that this post may ignite). To hi-lite my unhappiness with the state of the country? Maybe... Many many people manage lifelong relationships. It can be done.

theflynnmeister